Sasha Tengu

I receive requests every day, on average 5 which makes nearly 35 per week, not to mention the reactions (a little too spontaneous) following publications on social networks and in particular Instagram or Facebook.

If we consider that BDSM must remain a game between consenting adults, I would like to point out that consent remains the basis of the practice. However, we often tend to forget to respect the limits of the dominant person: some even allow themselves to flout them without warning. Without forgetting the very attentive submissives who are also being scammed online by equally badly caring people, who thus undermine our entire profession.

How to present yourself correctly to attract attention and meet a Dominatrix? What is the process to follow? How to avoid the many pitfalls that abound on the web?

As in any contract between 2 parties, the Domme and the submissive must agree to give, to do or not to do something towards someone. However, when addressing a professional whose work is based on domination, it is important to respect her limits and conditions. About me, here they are:

• A questionnaire to be completed: accessible via the dedicated Contact page;
• When negotiating a meeting, please respect my limits as well (which is part of any contract, isn’t it?): A No remains a NO even if you offer me double or triple my fees;
• If your application is rejected, take a step back: we are not made to get along and failure is an integral part of the personal development process that is BDSM;

Through my many travels around the world and especially in Asia, where I regularly visited my submissives during tours, I demand respect for my profession and authenticity in your approach.

• Respect: feeling that leads to give someone consideration because of the value that we recognize,
• Authenticity: virtue by which an individual expresses with sincerity and commitment what he truly is.
  In this regards, I invite you to find out about my practices, my interviews and portraits.

When you talk to me, no interest in calling me “baby”, “darling” or other girlfriend names. It will be Madame ONLY, only the most seasoned submissives have the right to call me Mistress.

When you meet someone you want to interest you, do you think that by calling them “sweetie” or “love” you are going to stand out, in a good way obviously? Do you think this person is in such an existential vacuum and emotional deprivation that they will contact you again?

Also, there is no point in presenting yourself as the biggest bitch in Europe, the world or your village: it tends to make me vomit. To draw a parallel, you go to a Ferrari dealership claiming to be a fan of sports cars, rallies etc … Great, but then? Tell me about your passion for the brand’s racing cars on horseback: great but when do you decide to buy it?

In your submission process, when you call on a professional Dominatrix, you must know that there is a significant cost relating to our activities and our training: equipment, evolution of practices, outfits and accessories to offer you the experience that you wish.

So give value to your submission. If you can’t afford a session today, save your money for tomorrow if your goal is to serve your Domina. If your goal is just to satisfy an impulse without investing the financial means, I advise you to meditate more on your motivations.

Good luck